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Q: How can I listen to / watch content from iTunes® on my iPhone™ / 
iPod® Touch? ("Streaming")(FAQ015E0229)

A: First of all, setup the AJAX Remote as described in the FAQ entry 
"How do I setup the AJAX Remote?". 
Then follow these steps:

• In AJAX Remote on your iPod® Touch or iPhone™, tap on the "Music" 
symbol.

• Now tap on "Library" (upper-right corner) and navigate to the media 
file you want to playback on your iPod® Touch or iPhone™.

• Tap on the blue play button.

• If QuickTime® thinks that it can playback the file, you can now 
start playback by tapping on dark-blue playback button.

All preference settings are already set correctly by default. If 
however, you don't see any playback symbols: the remote access to 
files is only supported if you have you have set a password ("Require 
password" is enabled) and the option "Allow access to the files in 
your iTunes® library ("streaming")" is enabled as well. 
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Given your description, the last paragraph is the solution to your 
problem: enabling password protection and then giving permission to 
remote access (the latter is automatically turned off, if you turn off 
password protection).

 
Best regards,

Felix Schwarz