Today I made the Remote Buddy Update. It solve the crashing problem when changing the resolution. And now also it works with the recording. I don't no why. 
Perhaps you could still change the entry named "Aufnahme" to "Aufnahme starte / stoppen".

The most time when I'm watching TV I start the recording. So I can stop whenever I want. But often I forget to stop recording before I quit. Then a Pop-Up window appears with two options. Now I have to klick a button with a keyboard or change to Mouse Mode. That's not really a Remote Buddy problem. But perhaps anybody now's a workaround. An AppleScript that automatically selectes the "Cancel" option when I'm quitting EyeTV... Any ideas?